#44 EmyLee Coaches Katelyn About What To Do For Distance Learning

Can I just say, I really want to throw you all a life raft right now! So, I’m trying not to fall in the pool on this one! 
We all have a lot of similar decisions to make in the fall and it can get overwhelming. Especially when our brain is looking at last spring as an indicator for what we have to look forward to!
What I want you to notice when I am coaching Katelyn is how even as she tries to decide on the perfect school choice for her son, she still feels overwhelmed and stuck. 

Changing the Circumstance can help a situation. We would all like things to get back to normal. I agree. But the truth is, it’s not actually the distance learning creating our mood and relationships with our kids. 

Even as she looks for a new option, she is holding on to the thought, ” He’s going to fight me every step of the way.”

The decision is not nearly as important as our thought. That’s why I LOOOVE coaching. And why I had to offer you this robot version of my coaching call. It was just too good. 

#30 How to Stop Yelling at Your Kids

If you feel like you yelling at your kids has become your go to move, I can help.
First of all, there’s nothing wrong with you. Your brain is actually doing a really great job when you yell. You don’t yell because you don’t love your kids and it doesn’t mean you’re weak.
Changing behavior with willpower alone is a loosing game. Come find out why.

#29 Suffering is Optional

Pain is necessary but suffering is optional.
The challenges we experience are necessary, important and joyful even. But, the suffering that we associate with challenges in our lives is unecesary and caused by our own thinking.
You guys are going to walk away from this episode inviting fear and frusteration to hop in the back seat of your car and drive away with you. I promise!

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#27 EmyLee Coaches Kristina on Reaching Her Goals (even with kids)

I wanted to share with you a glimpse into one of my client sessions.

Kristina shares with me that her child’s needs aren’t more important than her needs, but they are more urgent.

This has her constantly adjusting her schedule to accommodate which means she is struggling to make traction on her goals.

Listen in as we question the thought that our goals have to take away from our kids. Is it possible that creating our best life also adds to theirs?

#26 Relinquishing Control

Have you ever been a back seat parent? … Me…I’m totally guilty of this with my husband. And, like you, I’ve struggled to sit quietly while he parents different than me because that is my child too, right?
Control is a funny thing. It feels so available to us and also so important.
This was true long ago when we were living in the wilderness. We needed to control whatever we could in order to stay alive. But today, even though it’s less necessary, our brain tells us that we need to be in control or we might DIE!
The thing is, control is an allusion. The more you beleive you have it, the more stuck you feel.
Letting go of control and  focusing on how you think and feel is the way to have power over your results.
Listen in for some surprising suggestions about what is not your “job”. It might just change your life.

#25 Can God Be Dissapointed in you? With guest Kurt Francom

Sometimes we get caught up in God’s business. We think we know the plan. We beleive we know what should have happened or what would be best for our future. But we do this the most by assuming we know what God thinks about us.
Many of us beleive that God loves us, but we also think he’s disappointed in us.
This episode is full of scriptures to help support the idea that God is never disappointed in you. He genuinly loves you, no matter what you do. And I hope you will hear this episode and then go out and do good, because you know that God would love you even if you didn’t.
If you want to learn more from Kurt Francom, you can find his most popular podcasts here: https://leadingsaints.org/category/mp3/

#24 The FIVE Mom myths

There are 5 mom myths out there. 
I call them myths because people mistake them for truth. 
They create shame, overwhelm, guilt, indecision and anger. 
And, I’m pretty sure you have believed at least one of these at some point in your momming career. 
But, here’s the thing. Thoughts are always optional. We get to choose them. 
This means that we don’t need anyone to agree with us or evidence in order to believe a thought. 
I suggest you believe something because it serves you. 
So listen in. See if these myths are holding you back from being the best version of you. Consider who you would be without these thoughts. Then take a moment and create your own definition of what makes  a good mom. This is your new mantra. Watch your brain and remind yourself… You are doing amazing!

#23 Love Languages and A One Way Marriage

If you’re caught up in trying to understand your spouse better so you can love them in just the right way… you might be exhausted. Or, worse, resentful.
Love languages is a beautiful way to gain understanding  about ourselves and others, but when we show up to try and make other people feel our love, it can feel like a loosing battle. This is because their feelings never were in our control.
And, this goes both ways. Our spouse isn’t there to complete us. They can’t make us feel special or loved or enough, and it’s not their job. We need to fill our own emotional cup and then show up to our marriages 100%.

This is why coaching one on one can be so powerful in a marriage.  Relationships are simply our thoughts about another person and that is absolutely within our control. If you’re a little skeptical I understand. Listen in and this concept might change your marriage forever!
If you have questions or want more help from me, you can grab a free session here: calendly.com/limiltessfemale

#22 What it means to love and be loved

Love can’t be given away, and others can not give it to you. Love is an emotion that we create with our thoughts. This means that we are 100% loveable and so is everyone else in our life. Someones lovablitliy is directly related to our capacity to love and not the behavior of the other person. This is amazing news! 
There are no difficult people in our lives, only thoughts that stop us from loving them. 
This also means that there is no need to change ourselves so that we are more lovable. How people feel about us is 100% about them. Our job is to show up loving because that’s who we are. 
Listen in and I’m going to teach you why there is never a downside to love.

#21 When You Feel Stuck

Feeling Stuck isn’t always a bad thing. When we can’t change things outside of us, a magical thing happens… WE begin to change. 

And, when we change, we start to find proof that it never was our situation creating our joy or our sorrow. It’s a powerful tool that I love using with my clients and I wanted to share it here with you as well.